…and once I met him I went with my gut

“I met a British guy over in Sydney a few years back. So I left Uni and came here to be with him. I don’t regret my decision, not at all – I was following my dream when I was studying in Sydney, and once I met him I went with my gut. I’d strongly encourage anyone to follow their intuition in the same way; because if it feels right, then the rest will work itself out.

And, well, I’ve move here and we’re engaged now, so things have worked out really well. I only see better things to look forward to”

 

 

The music always helps me to express my emotions, pain and anger about this world imperfections

“I became an animal welfare activist about a year ago. I have my own cat, who I adore, but I love all animals in general. I became a vegetarian too as I can’t say that I care for animals but then go around eating them. Nothing against the taste or health, but I couldn’t support it with my love for all creatures. So I help charities to market their causes; and even though I cannot go along to these places a lot, I give my financial and online support where I can.

Outside of my job I’m also in two music bands – the music always helps me to express my emotions, pain and anger about the world’s imperfections and the more people know me and my views the more they could possibly understand and start thinking in more compassionate direction.”

Check out Atashi Tada’s Instagram pages for more on her music:
 @dicepeople and @elysiandivide

POST OF THE WEEK: At the time I was engaged to a girl for four years… she saw things differently after her depression

“Once I finished law school, I worked as a junior lawyer back in Romania. I had shorter hair then.
But after that I got a project, in art – I wrote scenarios for theatre places and also played as an actor in a remake of Oscar Wilde’s book. We did an adaptation on his play, a Portrait of Dorian Grey – read the book if you haven’t done so. We adapted it to our day, with a modern version of the character. It’s a very psychological story, about religion, and power… and what happens to him once he takes his Uncle’s fortunes.
I chose to quit my both jobs – as a junior lawyer and as a manager in a big company involved in real estate construction. At that time I was engaged to a girl for four years, who was a judge. She fell in depression for a long time… and she saw things differently after her depression. You know, she studied a lot and didn’t go out anymore. After a long period of this, she didn’t have any more energy, any more power to fight against any of the difficulties. And you have to provide a happiness to your soul so you can keep good balance. She is now in a hospital for people with mental issues. So she came one day and said “I don’t love you anymore, I don’t want to be together”. And really I was doing both the jobs for her because I wanted to be able to provide her the comfort. As a man I do not need that many things, she needed more the make up, the clothes… I was just wanting to share the feelings with someone and have what I need, nothing luxurious.
After this I decided I can’t stay anymore in my country, everywhere I went we had a memory ‘we went there for the first time to eat’ or ‘we met at that corner’ and so on. So I knew I had to change places and start a new life. Then I got this project from a friend of mine, I met her in Milano when I was playing soccer for Inter Milan. She was a Director from the United States. So I showed her Milan and Italy, and we made friends. She knew I was writing poetry and other things, and she proposed me ‘you have talent, you should focus on this… look I have a good opportunity for you – we are going with a private theatre in the US. It is mostly with a charity but they are paying well, and you can help to write the scenarios with us’.
I accepted and started to work with them… and then they thought it was a good idea for me to also try as an actor. They gave me some training, and I started to let my hair grow, because it was for the role. Now the project has finished but I have decided to keep the hair.”

We first met the way that all couples meet.. at a dingy rock club(!). You did the whole chase your dreams and come to London, right?

Yeh I’ve always thought London was a place I had to see, and there’s so much going on here for me. I’ve been here for a while now and sometimes I think I am ready to move away. But once you leave and stay somewhere else for a while, you realise how accessible London is  – you can walk around and find a corner shop open at midnight if you need to buy something

We met on the Wednesday after Christmas. No wait, it was the Wednesday before Christmas. So that was 5 years ago.. so it’s our 5 year anniversary of our first meet.

What’s my tip of the day… here’s one: Growing old is inevitable, feeling old is optional

POST OF THE WEEK: The story of Christopher Jones, ex-member of Euphonic

“Years ago, I was part of a band called Euphonic, you may have heard of them. After a while I began writing a book – but one where each chapter had a backing music track and a poem. So while people were reading they could listen to the music, which set a certain mood for them. I uploaded the progress onto MySpace, and then, well… my work was stolen by one of the band members. He started his own page with it and mine had been shut down. So I had lost most of what I’d worked on. And through the frustration, I actually ended up burning what I had written. I didn’t see the justice in what had happened and was left with nothing.

There were some tough years for me but eventually I realised I needed to get back on my feet. Now I’ve gone online and apparently they are looking to reopen the old MySpace, I don’t know how it was shut down in the first place. So I’ve just sent a letter, well I’ve sent it a few now, and I’ve had some good news that they will open this up again. And I know all my old stuff was on there – so there is hope, that it is all still on there, and I collect all my stories together, you know, and have some basis to focus on. Because at the moment… I sleep outside. But I’m still quite positive, I feel quite spiritual, which helps when it gets quite overwhelming

I wasn’t really angry, I was more frustrated over the years… what was it, 16 years ago. So now, I’m trying to get organised, and making more effort to get the work that I want. I know they say life isn’t fair, but when you try and still manage to keep a positive mind, and these things set you back, it can make me feel quite angry thinking about it. It could get me quite angry now, but it’s really good to actually see some people, like yourself, you know with a camera and a project, it’s nice seeing people doing something positive.

London is really diverse and really cultural. But I think that some people seem to lack a bit of spirituality. Especially coming from Newham, my next door neighbour was muslim, the neighbour of him was Sikh, and my neighbour on the other side was English. I really liked growing up in that cultured atmosphere. It does get a bit disappointing that over the time I’ve spent in the underground scenes, I’ve met a broad spectrum of people and they tend to lack some spirituality, or a confidence in themselves or where they’re from. It’s almost seen as selfish to actually look at yourself.

I was working on a documentary, on homeless people, it was based on a spin-off from one in New York – you can look up ‘Dark Days’, it will be online. And also the band Euphonic – look up and listen to the music, see if it’s something you like.

The relationship with the band is ongoing, I’m still positive about that and I’m quite confident I’ll be able to get something from it and start recording again. It was really one person in the band, and he was the first to leave. So I’ve got faith now and I can see things working out, I’ll hopefully be able to pick up where I left off.

Check out the music at:
https://euphonic1.bandcamp.com/album/euphonic

“Please and thanks go a long way…”

  • I just had my Christmas party and it was wicked! And now I’m taking the train to meet my friends for sushi, but I’m about an hour late, or more like hour and a half. And it’s 20 minutes until the next train, but it’s all fine, they know how to have a good time. This time of year is so fun – I can have a work party, take all these cool Christmas items, and now go and drink more with my friends. The lady I work for; love her to bits and at work she is so serious, but tonight I dragged her to dance, and she was loving it!
  • What dya think of my jumper? Everyone loved it, it was definitely the best one there.
  • ..one thing I always say .. Is Manners cost nothing. Please and thanks go a long way; that and a smile. People are so much more receptive when you smile and they are so much more likely to help you out and speak to you. So yeh, everyone should remember – a smile goes a long way and it doesn’t cost a thing. Gotta run, see ya!