POST OF THE WEEK: At the time I was engaged to a girl for four years… she saw things differently after her depression

“Once I finished law school, I worked as a junior lawyer back in Romania. I had shorter hair then.
But after that I got a project, in art – I wrote scenarios for theatre places and also played as an actor in a remake of Oscar Wilde’s book. We did an adaptation on his play, a Portrait of Dorian Grey – read the book if you haven’t done so. We adapted it to our day, with a modern version of the character. It’s a very psychological story, about religion, and power… and what happens to him once he takes his Uncle’s fortunes.
I chose to quit my both jobs – as a junior lawyer and as a manager in a big company involved in real estate construction. At that time I was engaged to a girl for four years, who was a judge. She fell in depression for a long time… and she saw things differently after her depression. You know, she studied a lot and didn’t go out anymore. After a long period of this, she didn’t have any more energy, any more power to fight against any of the difficulties. And you have to provide a happiness to your soul so you can keep good balance. She is now in a hospital for people with mental issues. So she came one day and said “I don’t love you anymore, I don’t want to be together”. And really I was doing both the jobs for her because I wanted to be able to provide her the comfort. As a man I do not need that many things, she needed more the make up, the clothes… I was just wanting to share the feelings with someone and have what I need, nothing luxurious.
After this I decided I can’t stay anymore in my country, everywhere I went we had a memory ‘we went there for the first time to eat’ or ‘we met at that corner’ and so on. So I knew I had to change places and start a new life. Then I got this project from a friend of mine, I met her in Milano when I was playing soccer for Inter Milan. She was a Director from the United States. So I showed her Milan and Italy, and we made friends. She knew I was writing poetry and other things, and she proposed me ‘you have talent, you should focus on this… look I have a good opportunity for you – we are going with a private theatre in the US. It is mostly with a charity but they are paying well, and you can help to write the scenarios with us’.
I accepted and started to work with them… and then they thought it was a good idea for me to also try as an actor. They gave me some training, and I started to let my hair grow, because it was for the role. Now the project has finished but I have decided to keep the hair.”

We’ve been best mates ever since

  • We met in Maths class back in school. I remember walking in and seeing that he looked cool, like different to the rest of the people in the class – everyone else just blended into one. So we spoke to each other, just about whatever, and yeh, we’ve been mates ever since.
  • He’s an illustrator, and I’m, well… I’m kinda just messing around with a few things, but I’m tryna find what I want to do. I do some modelling too but that’s not really what I wanna be doing – I don’t really like it that much. But I’m working on figuring it out, and when I do I’m gonna be so damn good at it.
  • Network and portfolio are such a good asset to have here. If you’re arty, then having a portfolio is ideal. These can really help you get noticed and be successful in London. I don’t feel like I wanna take the route of going through university and then half way through end up thinking that’s not what I wanna do, nah, I want to find my own way and start on it as early as I can.
  • That’s where London is different to other places. In Spain, having a portfolio won’t help you break out onto the creative scene, it’s just not there. Here, you have so many possibilities. And I got my friend here so there’s nothing I won’t be able to do.

Sonny [white jumper]